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We specialise in working with children, young people and families, but also provide counselling for adults

We currently operate the following training courses. Please don't hesitate to get in touch if you have any questions or would like to discuss bespoke training — we try to be informative, accommodating and flexible wherever we can.

Our Training Courses

Without good training, we cannot derive the benefit of the experience of others. Training provides an efficient and methodical shortcut to the alternative of each individual learning by trial and error. Our immense experience in working with young people and adults with complex mental health or behavioural issues provides a solid backbone to all our courses.

Understanding, Helping and Supporting Children and Young People Who Self-Harm

Course Outline

Self-harm is the commonly used term for deliberate injury to the body. Examples of this include biting, hair pulling, burning, cutting, scrubbing and overdosing. Knowing that a child or young person is self-harming can be difficult to understand or come to terms with and often leaves people feeling hopeless and helpless.

The aim of this training is to raise awareness as to why children and young people self-harm, what constitutes self-harm and how to develop skills necessary when working or living with these young people despite this practice.

The training will involve a range of techniques including group discussions, case studies and active exercises and includes handouts.

Outcomes:

  • Define what self-harm is and recognise a range of methods
  • Recognise the difference between self-harm and suicide
  • Be aware of the reasons why children and young people self-harm
  • Develop understanding and confidence in a range of practical strategies to minimise and manage the risks of self harm
  • Learn how to help children and young people who self harm strengthen their resilience

Who is the course aimed at?

Those working within childcare and youth sectors, NHS, schools, as well as those working at a more strategic level within children and young people’s services. It will also be beneficial for parents, foster carers or those considering or having adopted children.

Accreditation

• Attendance certificate

Further options

• Consultancy

• Further courses

Resources to take away

• Practical resources

• Handouts

The comments below are from the delegates who attended this training previously:

"I have wanted a course like this for so long, one that does not bore you with stats but explains what is going on for the young person"

"Lots of good information and strategies to help rather than make things worse"

"I have really learnt something new today, thank you"

"It was such a breath of fresh air to have a trainer who didn't just send me to sleep"

“Today was not only useful for my work but also for me as a parent”

“I was a bit worried about the participation bit but have enjoyed it all. It was actually good to be a part of the learning and was not frightening at all”

A video titled 'Understanding, Helping & Supporting Children & Adolescents Who Self-Harm' is available for purchase from here: https://purchases.timetolisten.co.uk

Recognising and Healing Shame in Children and Adolescents​

A one-day workshop for primary and secondary teachers, SENCOs, therapists, social workers, parents, adopters, foster carers, residential care workers, and other helping professionals

Course Outline

Shame is a part of healthy human development and all toddlers experience it. When a significant adult assists the child to manage these feelings of shame the child can develop the capacity for emotional and behavioural regulation. They will also learn how to express appropriate behaviours and inhibit inappropriate ones. However, in circumstances when this does not happen it can lead to chronic anger, controlling behaviour and a deterioration in the child’s ability to grow, develop and manage the demands of society.

Shame is a powerful emotion that can cause a person to feel flawed, inadequate, bad, a disappointment, not good enough. Shame is often confused with guilt and it can have long-term emotional effects that impede the ability to build healthy relationships.

The aim of this training is to provide an overview of the development of shame from its birth. Explore the behavioural aspects of shame and identify ways in which assistance can be given in order to support the individual in changing their responses. The day will provide practical strategies to reduce shame, promote positive relationships, develop self-confidence, self-esteem and self-worth within the child or adolescent.

Outcomes:

Understand the difference between guilt and shame and their development.

Identify how shame can be triggered and the damage that it can do to the sense of self.

Recognise the responses to shame and the behaviours related to these.

Identify practical strategies that can be used to reduce shame and promote healthy relationships.


FEEDBACK from those attending this event

  • What did you most enjoy about the day’s training?
  • Finding out solutions to shame
  • Ideas of the phrases and language to use that can reduce behaviour related to shame
  • The analogies and real-life examples
  • Gail has a really good way of explaining things
  • Learning more about shame – how to handle it
  • Really like the way the course is linked to real life.Embeds the learning for me
  • Difference between guilt and shame.Understanding shame / guilt in different working environments
  • Examples given and pace of explanations
  • Explanations of how shame develops
  • The facilitators knowledge and interpersonal skills
  • The helpful advice which I can share with parents on how to talk to children / develop relationship
  • Chance / time to reflect, think differently
  • Gail’s insight and use of examples. It’s really apparent how knowledgeable she is and her passion
  • Better understanding of shame / guilt.Some useful strategies / explanations
  • Very practical.Good to have an in-depth explanation as to why and how to help respond.
  • Learn tools to work with my child
  • The strategies to enable a child to deal with shame
  • Unpicking shame and guilt
  • Specifically enjoyed being able to link theory to practice and the personal experiences used are / were valuable
  • Examples
  • To understand and recognise shame.Symptoms
  • Very informative and enjoyed examples
  • Guilt and shame and how to help the shame come out in order to progress
  • The knowledge of the presenter of this topic and the pace and clarity in explaining all the bullet points
  • All of the information backed up by real life examples from Gail
  • Looking at the behaviour from the child’s perspective
  • Strategies
  • Gaining a clear idea of how to identify shame and how to help to reduce it. Being able to identify children in school who carry shame as the content was covered
  • Hearing actual examples of experiences and how professionals went about supporting children
  • Breakdown of shame
  • Gail’s stories – I think you are passionate and committed to getting adults to change how they respond to children and young people in distress – these are crucial messages that people need to understand
  • All aspects – helpful and informative
  • All of it. Gail presents and explains the material in an understandable, useful way
  • I enjoyed the application of the theory to real life situations. Detailed explanations that make sense
  • The knowledge of the trainer
  • The three visuals gave a good understanding
  • Listening to Gail’s knowledge
  • Using real life experiences
  • Trainer’s knowledge
  • Putting theory into situations
  • New information / interpretations of guilt and shame
  • Training was excellent

Neuroscience, Attachment and the Impact on Resilience in Children and Adolescents

Course Title Neuroscience, Attachment and the Impact on Resilience in Children and Adolescents

Course Length Full Day

Course Outline

With the increasing use of brain scans and investment in brain research there have been great advances in the knowledge of brain development. In the past children have been seen as very resilient and capable of withstanding all manner of stress, but we now know this is inaccurate. Children’s brains are highly vulnerable and very much influenced by attachment, their social interactions and the chemicals released as a result.

When secure attachments are not formed early in their lives it can have a negative impact on later behaviour and affect the rest of their lives.

The aim of this training is to develop an understanding of brain development, attachment and how the brain responds in different settings and how to connect in a way that allows the child to thrive. It will helps you to understand why resilience matters and how to promote it. The day will also provide strategies to facilitate positive relationships, develop self-confidence, self-esteem and self-worth within the child or adolescent.

Outcomes:

  • Understand the development of the brain
  • Identify which parts of the brain are triggered in different situations
  • Appreciate the link between attachment and the development of the brain
  • Identify the impact in developing resilience
  • Identify different strategies that will assist in emotional regulation and the development of resilience

Who is the course aimed at?

Parents, Foster Carers, Adoptive Parents and anyone who works with children and young people, in whatever capacity, will benefit from this training.

Feedback from Previous Attendees:

Every school should provide this training to teachers. Behaviour in schools would be dealt with differently and help would be given to children"

"I enjoyed all of the day it was very interesting. I learnt so much that I'd never thought about. I have plenty to put in to practice"

"Very informative, great delivery from Gail, learnt lots of new information and strategies"

"Essential training for foster carers and residential staff in looked after care system"

"Thank you. I really enjoyed it and thought Gail did a fantastic job. If there are any other training opportunities I would love to hear about them as I really got a lot out of the day"

"The links made were clearly explained, within contexts that were easy to understand"

"For the same reasons as presented I have had issues with the buzz word 'resilience'. Today gave me a very comprehensive understanding. It ticked all the boxes and more"

"The lecture was presented in a professional, friendly environment and given in an informal manner to help audience comprehend/understand subject being presented. Very informative, enjoyable, providing lots of knowledge. I would definitely recommend it"

"Lots of information and knowledge that I can share with staff and new strategies for my own parenting. It was well presented and our knowledge was shared brilliantly. Thank you"

"It surpassed my expectations. Lots of information that I could understand and relate to my role of teacher"

"Gail - We need to bottle her!"

"I have previously attended training with Time to Listen and this fully met my expectations yet again. More training days Please! A Brilliant Day"

"The day delivered more than I expected. Subject content and how Gail delivered this using real life examples which put things in to context. Thank you I really enjoyed the day"

"I got so much more than expected. The knowledge and understanding gained about attachment was so informative but not heavy going. I felt very welcomed by Gail. Fantastic day thank you"

"Wasn't sure what to expect, but a brilliant informative day. Real life examples, great trainer"

Primal Wound and Attachment

Course Title Primal Wound and Attachment

Course Length Full Day

Course Outline

A lot has already been written about attachment, the process and the need for a secure attachment. Developing a secure attachment to a primary caregiver is extremely important for a child's ability to trust and the development of intimate relationships in adulthood. It is also associated with emotional regulation and the development of the individual’s identity. What is often overlooked is the power of the attachment that forms between mother and child before birth, in-utero. It is this bonding that if severed, either at birth or later, can cause what is often referred to as the ‘Primal Wound’, a lesion so deep that it may never heal and the cause of so much pain and trauma.

The aim of this training is to raise awareness of the existence of this wound and understand the effects of this trauma on the child. To help those living and working with adoptees, children in care or any child no longer living with their birth mother, assist in the process of healing.

Outcomes:

  • Understand attachment both before and after birth
  • Appreciate the effects of abandonment and loss on the individual
  • Apply a range of strategies to assist in the healing process

Who is the course aimed at?

Parents, Foster Carers, Adoptive Parents, Step-Parents, Family Members and anyone who works with children and young people, in whatever capacity, will benefit from this training.

Accreditation

• Attendance certificate

Further options

• Consultancy

• Further courses

Resources to take away

• Practical resources

• Handout

Recognising and Healing Shame in Children and Adolescents

Course Outline

Shame is a part of healthy human development and all toddlers experience it.When a significant adult assists the child to manage these feelings of shame the child can develop the capacity for emotional and behavioural regulation.They will also learn how to express appropriate behaviours and inhibit inappropriate ones.However, in circumstances when this does not happen it can lead to chronic anger, controlling behaviour and a deterioration in the child’s ability to grow, develop and manage the demands of society.

Shame is a powerful emotion that can cause a person to feel flawed, inadequate, bad, a disappointment, not good enough.Shame is often confused with guilt and it can have long-term emotional effects that impede the ability to build healthy relationships.

The aim of this training is to provide an overview of the development of shame from its birth.Explore the behavioural aspects of shame and identify ways in which assistance can be given in order to support the individual in changing their responses.The day will provide practical strategies to reduce shame, promote positive relationships, develop self-confidence, self-esteem and self-worth within the child or adolescent.

Outcomes:

  • Understand the difference between guilt and shame and their development.
  • Identify how shame can be triggered and the damage that it can do to the sense of self.
  • Recognise the responses to shame and the behaviours related to these.
  • Identify practical strategies that can be used to reduce shame and promote healthy relationships.

Attunement To Form Attachment

Course Title Attunement To Form Attachment

Course Length Full Day

Course Outline

Research shows that early attachments have a serious impact on the development of our children. When secure attachments are not formed early in their lives it can have a negative impact on later behaviour and even throughout their lives. However to develop a secure attachment we need to demonstrate attunement, being aware of and responsive to another individual. Having the ability to communicate in a non-verbal way is vital as it helps us to build and maintain relationships.

The aim of this training is to provide an understanding of attunement in relation to developing a secure attachment. It will provide strategies to assist in developing the skills of attunement.

Outcomes:

  • Understand the forms of attachment
  • Identify the importance of having a secure attachment
  • Appreciate the link between attunement and attachment
  • Identify the barriers to developing a secure attachment
  • Identify different strategies to assist in developing the skills of attunement

Who is the course aimed at?

Parents, Foster Carers, Adoptive Parents, Step-Parents, Family Members and anyone who works with children and young people, in whatever capacity, will benefit from this training.

Accreditation

• Attendance certificate

Further options

• Consultancy

• Further courses

Resources to take away

• Practical resources

• Handout

Understanding anger helps you work effectively

Understanding and Working with Anger

Course Title Understanding and Working with Anger

Course Length Full Day

Course Outline

It would appear that children and young people are getting angrier and find it difficult to regulate their emotions. Ultimately this is not only disruptive for them but for those around them and affects learning.

The aim of this training is to raise awareness of the physiology and psychology of anger and to develop strategies to assist in regulating the emotional response.

Outcomes:

  • Understand how the brain works in relation to anger
  • Recognise the physiological signs of anger
  • Understand the psychological reasons behind anger
  • Select different coping strategies to use with anger
  • Compare ways of working with an angry young person

The training will involve a range of techniques particularly interesting case studies and active exercises.

Who is the course aimed at?

Anyone who works with children and young people, in whatever capacity, will benefit from this training or anyone who lives with children.

Accreditation

• Attendance certificate

Further options

• Consultancy

• Further courses

Resources to take away

• Practical resources

• Handout

Our training focuses on understanding, defining and then acting positively to challenging behaviours.

Understanding and Working with Self-Harm in Children and Young People

Course Title Understanding and Working with Children and Young People Who Self-Harm

Course Length Full Day

Course Outline

Knowing that a child or young person is self-harming can be difficult to deal with and often people feel hopeless and helpless. The aim of this training is to raise awareness as to why children and young people self-harm, what constitutes self-harm and how to develop skills necessary when working with these young people despite this practice.

The training will involve a range of techniques including group discussions, case studies and active exercises and includes handouts.

Outcomes:

  • Define what self-harm is and recognise a range of methods
  • Recognise the difference between self-harm and suicide
  • Understand some of the reasons why children and young people self-harm
  • Recognise hostile ways of working with those who self-harm
  • Recognise effective strategies for improving relationships
  • Identify some useful strategies for helping children and young people to reduce self-harm

Who is the course aimed at?

Parents, Foster Carers, Adoptive Parents and anyone who works with children and young people, in whatever capacity, will benefit from this training.

Accreditation

• Attendance certificate

Further options

• Consultancy

• Further courses

Resources to take away

• Practical resources

• Handout

Re-Wiring The Brain to Change Behaviour

Course Title                                    Re-Wiring The Brain to Change Behaviour

Course Length                                Full Day

Course Outline

Our brains are wired to have a negative bias, to be vigilant to harmful experiences, to identify potential threats and dangers that could challenge our survival.  Such self-protection goes back to our days as hunter- gatherers but as our lives have moved on and changed our perception of danger has not.  What began as a strong, reliable survival strategy can now play a huge part in the development of anxiety, stress and depression.

Thankfully we are no longer doomed to be controlled by our ‘survival brain’, we have the ability to ‘re-wire’ our brains and think positively, change thought patterns, reactions and behaviours.  Recent brain research has identified that our brains, once thought of as functioning in a predetermined way with little ability to change, are in fact malleable and, under certain conditions, can affect change.  

The aim of this training is to provide a scientific overview of how the brain works and to discuss how to personally ‘re-wire’ your own brain, and assist others to, in order to make positive changes in behaviour.  To feel more positive, remain calm during stressful times, improve relationships and even change the habits of a lifetime.

 Outcomes:

  • Understand the development of the brain
  • Identify which parts of the brain are triggered in different situations
  • Recognise how patterns of behaviour are created
  • Appreciate the link between triggers and behaviour
  • Identify different strategies to assist in re-wiring the brain

 Accreditation

            •          Attendance certificate

Further options

            •          Consultancy

            •          Further courses

Resources to take away

            •          Practical resources 

            •          Handout

Raising self-compassion leads to raising self-esteem. Our training gives you the means to help children do this

The Importance of Raising Self-Compassion in order to raise Self-Esteem; in Children and Young People

Course Title            The Importance of Raising Self-Compassion in order to raise Self-Esteem; in Children and Young People

Course Length            Full Day

Course Outline

Self-esteem is seen as crucial to learning and the foundation of self-confidence and motivation however establishing it can be easier said that done. 

The aim of this training is to raise awareness of self-compassion, its importance and the effects of low self-compassion on children and young people.  It also aims to help participants appreciate the need to focus on self-compassion rather than self-esteem.

"To conquer oneself is a greater victory than to conquer thousands in a battle" (Dali Lama)

Outcomes:

  • Understand the difference between self-esteem and self-compassion
  • Appreciate the underlying issues leading to low self-compassion
  • Recognise the need to focus on self-compassion to increase self-awareness and self-confidence
  • Define the link between low self-compassion, depression and mental health issues
  • Comprehend the barriers to developing self-compassion
  • Compare different strategies to assist in developing self-compassion
  • Appreciate existing skills in working with children and young people

Who is the course aimed at?

Parents, Foster Carers, Adoptive Parents and anyone who works with children and young people, in whatever capacity, will benefit from this training.

Accreditation

            •            Attendance certificate

Further options

            •            Consultancy

            •            Further courses

Resources to take away

            •            Practical resources 

            •            Handout

Surviving the Teenage Years

Course Title Surviving the Teenage Years

Course Length Full Day

Course Outline

Providing a secure, loving and supportive environment to children who haven’t necessarily had the best start in life can be difficult at any time. However when you then add in to the mix the transition in to adulthood and independence conflicts can become the order of the day.

The aim of this training is to raise awareness of the difficulties that young people face making the transition in to adulthood. To understand the physical, emotional and social effects of this period of their lives. The training will also provide helpful suggestions to improve the communication between adults and teenagers.

Outcomes:

  • Understand adolescents from a physical, emotional and social perspective
  • Appreciate the effects of these forces on the individual
  • Apply a range of strategies to improve communication between adults and the adolescent

Who is the course aimed at?

Parents, Foster Carers, Adoptive Parents, Step-Parents, Family Members and anyone who works with children and young people, in whatever capacity, will benefit from this training.

Accreditation

• Attendance certificate

Further options

• Consultancy

• Further courses

Resources to take away

• Practical resources

• Handout